I am a mother, but I am a wife too. In fact, I was a wife first!!
Being a mom is life consuming. So much so that at least in the first few months after a baby arrives, you kind of forget that other role you took on first. I am a wife too.
It is so so so easy to put your baby/kids before everything and everyone else. Moms are selfless creatures. Not necessarily by choice, but when you bring this little wrinkly pink thing home from the hospital, it needs ALL of your attention. The time you get to spend on yourself for the basic necessities (sleeping, eating, showering) all sort of revolve around whether or not the baby will let you.
This can easily become your habit in all areas of life and all relationships. You get so used to doing whatever the baby needs whenever the baby needs it that you never stop. Now I am definitely not saying you should neglect your baby. Not at all. Especially in those first few months, the majority of your limited energy is focused on the newest member of your family. But you know what? Babies grow up. They become less needy. In fact, every day they become more and more independent. And that is a scary and sad thing sometimes. But it’s also great. Because it means you can step back into your role as a wife/spouse again!
Your relationship is the whole reason that your little one even exists! If you have a strong relationship with your spouse and your child sees you putting each other first, they will have such a great example of what a good strong marriage looks like for their future. Don’t be afraid to put each other first. A strong family exists because of a strong marriage rooted in The Lord. Your children will feel safe and secure when they see that mommy and daddy are secure in their marriage.
Take date nights when you can. Talk to each other. LET your relationship come first. You were husband and wife before you were mom and dad. It doesn’t mean things will be exactly the same as they were before baby, but you can still love each other above all others.
“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)